If you have ANY doubt in your mind about a person’s character, leave them alone.

In a few of my articles, I’ve spoken about the importance of intuition when it comes to feelings, respect, and trust. However, I haven’t spoken much about the importance of intuition when it comes to a person’s physical and mental safety. A relationship…love…romance…doesn’t mean crap when you’ve got to avoid a hand coming at your face, full force.

There are other dangers in not trusting your inner judgment. You can lose money. Credit ratings can be killed overnight. Friendships can be thrown out the window. There could be loss of property. Any number of things can happen. Listen to your gut. Listen to your gut. Listen to your gut.

Think of this as you keep on reading.

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The heart can go into stasis. It’s not frozen, but it’s not comfortable exploring the possibilities, either. When this state happens, it means a lot…or, nothing at all. A temporarily unfeeling heart can be a great, wonderful gift, and I’ll tell you why.

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Stop making excuses for a person and their behavior.

To have a charitable heart is a virtue, but is virtue that great when it hurts? It’s not; I think that we can all agree on that. I promise you, it will start hurting a lot when a man or woman treats you like dirt, acts against your best interests, or has no consideration.

Our acceptance of bad behavior stems from several things. Low self-esteem, attachment to a certain outcome, guilt, or a fear of emotional honesty can make us turn a blind eye to maltreatment. Also, many people are socialized to be giving and selfless; we shouldn’t make too much of a scene, he didn’t mean to say that assy comment at dinner…the list goes on, and on, and on. Women fall prey to the memes of the “good woman” or “the good girlfriend”- this is why that horrible book, “The Rules”, made the bestseller lists. Men, on the other hand, are taught to be the long-suffering hero, meant to slay every one of his lady love’s dragons. Heroics can only go so far, because self-respect dictates that there be limits.

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While playing around with the word “Gold-digger” on Technorati last night, I stumbled upon the following blog entry. A fresh search today yielded about 5 additional blogs with the same list, and I didn’t have the heart to count the rest. All of the blogs hosting the list are owned by young Black men and women. At first, I didn’t take it seriously, and hoped that it was just someone’s bad idea for a joke. However, the replies I saw disproved my theory, as you’ll see in a future entry.

People actually chose and rated themselves based on this list. For real. Seriously. In earnest.

There seemed to be a universal agreement that this is the way things are, and that it was okay for women to be categorized by severe, hateful values that separate females into virgins and whores. To be exact, 25% virgins, 75% whores.

I’m just going to go down the list and comment on the different points. Get comfortable…it’s going to be a bumpy ride.

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If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn’t want you, nothing can make him stay.

Does the guy that just took your number really want you? Give it a week, and then pick one of these options:

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